ok friends and followers. it's been a while since i've blogged and much has happened. since my last post i have had the awesome joy and privilege of marrying my best friend, my companion, sasha brewer. life has been so incredible and fun with her. we connect on such a great level. i didnt realize that life and marriage could be like this. over the next few posts i will be sharing things that i have learned from my incredible marriage. keep in mind that we are but newly weds. we have been married for 2 months now and are learning every day.
you see, i believe that marriage is a total 100% commitment that must be worked on by both people. it is a sacred institution that too many people bail on today without giving it much of a chance. i dont know what the future holds for us, but i know that with God's help and with our undying love for one another the future looks bright. i know, i know, very cliche, but believe me when i say it. i have never felt love like this before. i have never been loved like this before. i have never felt so respected and appreciated and honored as i do now.
this is not the first time around in marriage for me. i was married once for 12 years and things just didnt work out. i did gain 3 beautiful children but had given up on the idea of love. i felt that love was a myth, a legend, something that previous generations had but that was no longer in existence. i felt in my heart that i could never trust again, never love again, never enjoy life with someone again. the wounds that i carried were almost too much to bear and i wanted to give up so many times. i tried dating around but that just ended up in frustration and loneliness. then in october of 2011 i decided to quit trying on my own and just allow God to take over. sounds simple yet it is not. you see, i am a man who gets things done on my own, without the help of others. so by trusting in God i was taking control out of my hands and putting my control and faith in a God whom quite frankly i didnt know if i could trust.
so to make a long story short i met sasha brewer through some friends of mine. initially i was skeptical yet every time i spoke to her i felt in my heart and spirit something new and fresh. our friendship was different and special. she had also been hurt in a previous marriage and had also given up and allowed God to work in her life at the same time that i had made that decision. things went into motion and soon we both realized that what we had was different that anything we had ever experienced before. friends of ours did their very best to keep us apart. men hit on sasha, women hit on me, old friends that we both had trusted turned their backs on us, but God never did. every time that someone hurt us or tried to keep us apart, God would give us 10 reasons to stay together.
soon we both began to realize that this was way bigger than us. God has a plan for me, for us, for our family. i dont know what that is, but as we spend time together in prayer, in bible study it becomes ever clear that God is in our relationship. it has not been a cake walk by any means. as i said many people were and still are against us. many of our so called friends have turned their backs on us and done what they can to split us apart. but we made a commitment to each other. for better or worse, in richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. and guess what, we have experienced all of that in the short time that we have been together. but we are still going strong, madly in love with one another.
you see, i think the big difference in this marriage and others that i see around us and others that i have experienced is that we both are totally dedicated to meeting each others needs on a daily basis. we have kept life simple and real between us. we have made a conscious decision to talk on a daily basis and if something is bothering us then we openly talk about it in a mature and adult manner. not character assassination or humiliation but open and honest communication. and so far this formula is working. we have dedicated one night a week for just us. i hate to call it a date night because the church has made it so cliche, so i call it our night. its a night or day when we just spend time with each other, laughing, telling jokes, sharing life and enjoying life.
i have never been happier! i plan on chronicling our journey together sharing the wins and the losses. i know we have a lifetime of experiences to learn from and grow from but one thing for certain is that there is no one else on this planet that i would want to share it with. i love sasha giraldo. she completes me, she uplifts me and encourages me. she is the most amazing woman, wife and friend that i could ever ask for or want. her cooking is amazing, our conversation is deep and relevant. our times together are fun and exciting. i am madly in love with sasha! i thank God every day for putting us together.
so stick with me as i try to encourage those of you out there who have lost your love for your wife or those of you whose marriage has grown stale. i dont have all the answers and dont claim to, but what i do have is honesty and God. i hope to hear from you soon!
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